⟡ Lucky are you who live where you love and call it home. ⟡
In the old days you were born, lived and died pretty much in the same place. Then came air travel and with it: business trips, job mobility and vacations to far flung lands. Suddenly the whole world is your oyster. A job transfer and you’re living in Zurich. A passionate vacation and you’re living in Tropica.
Today we have the luxury to ask, do I like it here? Where would I rather live? What climate is best for me? What geography speaks to my soul? Many people up and change their lives, starting again in a new place, making it their own.
I have wanted nothing more than to live in the same place all my life, and become a part of the landscape and human texture of a place. But life had other plans for me.
I was a New Yorker when I moved to Tropica for love. I raised my children here and created a big life. Now, kids grown and flown, I find I don’t want to be here any more.
But I don’t belong anywhere else.
This is what speaks more to my heart.
We all want what we can’t have, is that it? People dream of the tropics. Well, for a vacation it is nice. But for my current soul…a bit too laid back.
Have you ever considered that tropical beauty is so savage and demands so much of you, that it is…exhausting! And then, there’s the lack of serious, (for me) western cultural life. But I can totally understand how people come here and fall in love with this.
Everywhere is far from somewhere else. It is not uncommon to crave what we don’t have. Choice is wonderful, but it is also paralyzing. I look at Janny’s Rockie mountains and swoon. I visit Sally in the Midi Pyrenees and sigh. Flossie’s chic and gutsy Edinburgh? Ni hablar. One night, walking in Tirano, I breathed the cold alpine air infused with woodsmoke and thought, this is where I belong.
This feeling of being in the wrong place, of not belonging, is a terrible place to be.
What I will do is travel and let the world talk to me. Somewhere will tell me where I’m supposed to be.
But in the meantime, I’m living in other people’s fantasy: Tropica! And making the best of it.
Do you want to be somewhere else or do you love where you live? Where is your ideal place?
Hello my lovelies. A wistful message today. I exhaust myself with this question and wanted to put it out there for you. I will take all advice! Do leave your comments in the box below. I’d love it if you like or share this post via the clever buttons below. And if you haven’t already, enter your email so you won’t miss a thing.