Life takes over…


And we pause.

The birth of a child.  The death of a friend.   A trip to Europe.  The dog must be put down.  The depression of a family member. Masons  chipping away at wall cracks.  A broken water pump.

Just one of these things adds up to:  everything stopping. And just being able to: handle the details.  Life’s fabulous details. Hauling buckets of water to the toilet.  Not cooking because you can’t wash.  Being adrift in grief.   Exhausted from jet lag. Vacuuming cement dust for weeks.  Aching concern for a friend.

And everything should stop.  Time for cups of tea, a contemplation, or, if its five o’clock, a gin and tonic. Time to accompany each other by candlelight when the lights go out. To consider things. To let life take over, take you over.

Then one day, you are able to slip back into the usual routine.  You rejoice.

Today I paused.  A few of the above mentioned things are happening to me at the same time.  And then this morning, I was enjoying the Instagram photos of a young woman who lives in Venice, after which  I perused the New York Times and read yet another story about mass killings in the Arabian peninsula.

How do I accommodate these opposites, dreaminess and barbarism, into my life?  You can’t just ignore the bad.  That’s putting your head in the sand.  You can’t ignore the good.  That’s just plain dumb.

It’s a balancing act.  It’s what makes us human.  It’s what adds poignancy.

A pause ratchets up your compassion and hence, your ability to experience and share joy.

Wishes for a beautiful week, my friends.

xo Liza

P.S.  I’ll be tweeting from my living room during the live stream of Women in the World Summit, April 22-24.  Won’t you join me!  Yes?  Yes!

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7 thoughts on “Life takes over…

  1. eloquently stated – the struggle of enjoying the good times in the midst of bad times is often hard to express, but you have done it very well – very much enjoy your columns

    1. Thank you Kristen. You know, I didn’t mean for this post to be a pity party — which is how the comments seem to view it. It is about gathering yourself together and carrying on to experience even more joy. Upward and onward!

  2. Elizabeth. . .Thought it might be a nice idea to combine our lunch on Saturday with a pool gathering with some other friends. Here at my place. . We can have a pot luck. Let me know what you think.

    Katherine de B.


  3. The dichotomy of life is such a confusing thing. I find I struggle with it more now than when I was younger. I probably was too self-focused then to realize it all. Or too busy!

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